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The
Common Perception
Concerning Gay
People...
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Due to the influence of gay porn sites, as well as their
printed and video counterparts, the general perception of gay people is
that of a dominant males or females forcing sex upon poor, unsuspecting
heterosexuals for the purpose of turning them into a homosexuals. |
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Although, it makes for a very dramatic effect, such a
scenario does not truthfully portray the typical homosexual person.
Yes, just as there are perverted heterosexuals who force themselves on
innocent adults and children, there are indeed some gay people who are
just as guilty of the same moral crimes. However, the vast majority
of gay people lead quiet lives in loving relationships with no more than
one lover at a time and, as in many cases, these are long-term relationships.
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The Many Variations
of Being Gay...
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Again, the misconceptions concerning the homosexual community
are legion. Most people perceive gay males based upon scenes in Hollywood
movies which dramatize how three prison inmates might rape a new male prisoner
in some back room behind the prison laundry room. Then, there
is the more erotic perception that gay women love to dance with each other
in front of some guy who, like every man, has the fantasy of being with
two women at the same time. The truth is that the vast majority of
gay men are responsible people who would never rape anyone and lesbian
women are really not interested in sharing their lover with a heterosexual
male.
While going through my divorce, this writer shared a rental
house with another younger man who had just experienced the same.
During the almost three years that we shared that living arrangement together,
I got to meet most of his large family who lived in the area. One
of his uncles was openly gay and lived with his mate. Paul was a
man's man in every way and, being gay, probably more than most. He
was tall, athletic built, and ruggedly handsome. His lover was at
least ten years younger, slender, medium built, and his mannerisms were
"in the middle" (between masculine and feminine). However, they told
me that he looked absolutely stunning when dressed enfemme'.
Needing my brakes changed, my roommate suggested that
his Uncle Paul do the work for me. I spent a few hours there
that day while the two of them replaced my brakes. It was obvious
that these two men were enjoying a committed manogomous relationship.
They really cared about each other. In fact, they had been together
for some fifteen years by the time I met them. It was they who inspired
this article and, furthermore, have both read and agreed with it.
Furthermore, there is an amazing diversity of variation
in the gay community.
Homosexual men can range from leather clad dominant
figures to the very effeminate, including cross-dressers and shemales.
However, the vast majority are simply two normal males who consider each
other as committed lovers.
Conversely, homosexual women can range from bull dykes
to lipstick femmes. Again, as contrasted to their male counterparts,
the majority of lesbian couples are simply two women who are living in
a monogomous relationship with one another. One or both might tend
toward some masculinity (as in the case of a soft butch) or they could
also be very feminine in appearance.
Therefore, being gay does not mean that you are now committed
to raping heterosexuals. The reality is that gay men and women are
simply people who love and are loved. They couple just like everyone
else. They bond with each other. They are human beings who
deserve to be accepted as such regardless of anyone else's personal belief
system or moral values. Heterosexuals who do so are taking the high
road and will find themselves much more effective in relating to gay people
than those who refuse to accept their presence in our world.
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Gay People Promiscuous?
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The common belief that gay people are very promiscuous
and, therefore, have thousands of lovers in a lifetime is a myth.
Although, some are indeed that way, the vast majority experience long-term
primary relationships with their lovers. These are faithful to their
mates and would have it no other way.
A quick search through an Internet search engine using
the keywords "gay couples" will bring up a long list of those who have
posted personal web sites about their relationships. It is interesting
to note that gay men are much more apt to declare themselves publically
as compared to their female counterparts. There are at least five
male sites for every one that is female.
It is also interesting to note the ongoing issues
that these sites present. Many of them discuss the disatisfaction
in the gay community in regard to our government's refusal to legalize
same-sex
marriages. Others are working very hard to gather information
on couples who have been together for long periods of time. The need
to show that gay relationships represent more than the obvious sexual
implications is the predominant theme of these sites.
Our take on the subject of whether or not committed
gay couples are the majority doesn't really matter. It is enough
to know that there are, in fact, gay people who do believe in loyal monogomous
relationships. If nothing else, it is obvious that the homosexual
community's ever evil threat of contracting HIV makes such relationships
all the more attractive.
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Being a Gay Couple...
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There was a time not so long ago when two gay people who
were living together were very used to being openly persecuted. Furthermore,
they were subject to being made the butt of every joke amongst those who
were aware of their presence in the community.
Much has changed. Now, same sex couples are able
to live together openly and are not intimidated as they were in the not-too-distant
past. Still, there are those who will never accept them. As
a result, there are areas where gay people seem to congregate. In
the Mid-Atlantic region of our country, Philadelphia has it's gay area
and local nightclubs that cater to homosexual men and women. Also,
the Rehobeth Beach area of Delaware is known for it's large gay population.
Such communities exist all over the country and the world. However,
with the changing attitudes of society in general toward gay people, there
is hardly a neighborhood anywhere that doesn't have at least one gay person
or couple in residence.
Regardless of one's moral values or views on homosexuality,
there is a continuing trend toward acceptance of gay people in our society.
The bottom line is that they are real people who are just as capable of
loving other and accepting love as well. Each gay couple's relationship
is unique to their personalities, backgrounds, life views, and particular
mindsets--just as with heterosexuals.
Gay couples are only one of the many variations of primary
relationships amongst we who refer to ourselves as human beings.
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The mission of this not-for-profit website is to promote clear insights
and toleration regarding the many variations of primary relationships that
exist in our world. We ask for neither acceptance or approval but
hope that each visitor who reviews the pages of this site will leave them
with a better understanding of the numerous cultural, historical, preferential,
religious, sexual, and sociological approaches to coupling that have always
existed and will continue to exist as long as there are at least two human
beings living on this planet. If the effort put into creating and
maintaining this site results in others coming to the realization that
the basic human need to love and be loved takes on many forms which are
accepted by those who practice them, whether right or wrong as determined
by the personal belief system of others, then it will have served it's
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