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Second weddings are different for most of us who marry
again. The large church wedding is not the necessity that it was
those many years ago. Somehow, a simpler wedding amongst a few family
and friends seems more intimate; more appropriate. So it was that
Marilyn and I decided to make June 5, 2004, the most special day in our
lives together.
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the road from beautiful Lake Erie was perfect. Marilyn's brother,
Steve, and his wife, Susan, found it for us. |
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In fact, it was they who hosted us at their place on the lake,
served as our best man and matron of honor, provided their golf cart to
be our "limousine," and treated all of us to a wonderful dinner afterwards.
Along with their daughter, Victoria, who was our ringbearer, the message
of love for their sister was more than obvious. Every sister should
have a brother like Steve.
| What is it about a woman on her wedding day
that causes her to glow and smile so beautifully? Could it be that
after several years of trying to find someone special; someone who would
simply accept her for who she is and lover her deeply, that the sadness
of her past is about to be replaced with joy and happiness? |
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The wedding ceremony was simple. I brought my guitar
with me and began the event by singing, "Can't Help Falling In Love with
You." She had requested it. In fact, it gave me an opportunity
to share a little bit of how we had met from out first contact through
Match.com (an Internet matchmaking service) to my proposal and her acceptance.
Each of us had known others in our five-plus years of being resingled people
but what we experienced with each other from the very first was almost
mystical--the kind of magic that should happen to all those who truly fall
in love with their soul mates.
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We had corresponded via e-mail for three days and
no less than a dozen exchanges; some almost book chapter length.
Then we enjoyed three evenings of phone calls that were from 3 to 4.5 hours
long. That Saturday, we met at a wonderful restaurant. I presented
her with a rose while she was walking up to the entrance. A bouquet
of roses awaited her at the table where I had previously arranged for the
waiter to bring them once we had ordered. |
We went out dancing afterwards. No two people could possibly have
wanted to get to know each other so badly and so quickly. Somehow,
we both just knew that this was it--all that we had been looking for in
another. It does happen, you know.
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Now, after ten months of planning, waiting,
and dreaming together, we said our vows to each other in front of the chaplain
and our witnesses. Looking deeply in to each other's eyes as two
people who had searched so hard to find each other, we said our "I do's"
with love, conviction, and commitment. Unlike two kids who knew so
little of life, we are two mature people who understand so much more.
No one need be concerned as to whether or not our marriage
will succeed. Both of us fully realize that |
only 30% of second marriages work out. In our case, we are willing
to take on the challenge and beat those odds. You see, each of us
has faced the consequences of the choices we have made in life. Most
of those decisions were good ones; some were not. What will make
the difference is that we have learned from our mistakes. Instead
of carrying all the old baggage from our previous marriages, we've consciously
identified what needs to be discarded and what should be retained.
We've moved on--together. We're confident that we'll succeed this
time "...until death do us part."
The sign on the back of the cart said, "Just Married."
It's a new beginning of a new love and a new life together.
Finally, resingled no more! |
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The Wedding Party & Best Friends
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Now, Let's Get This Marriage Going!
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