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Decisions, Decisions!
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church wedding? Justice of the Peace? Elope? Or just
a simple private wedding with your family and a few friends? |
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Of course, doing the large wedding will demand more expense, planning,
and lead time to get it all done. On the other hand, a smaller home
wedding with your family and friends might be just the way to go.
At any rate, the resources below can be a real help to you no matter which
route you take. They are full of great tips and will assist you in
thinking about some ideas you might not have considered yet.
Several of them also include some very helpful tools including publication
resources on the subject, bridal gowns, wedding planners, Internet registries,
and even a site on where all of our wedding customs came from.
Enjoy!
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Some Things To
Consider...
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Church
Weddings: Usually involves more cost and
planning. Considerations will include everything from the format
of the ceremony to how much the minister is paid. The point to make
here is that couples sometimes set their hearts on using a church even
though they do not regularly attend one. As a result, they find themselves
dismayed that churches are not so anxious to perform weddings for non-attenders.
There are also church policies that will need to be considered. Most
do not allow smoking on their premises and others will not perform a ceremony
if alcohol is to be served at the reception. You should check into
these things before planning your wedding. Do so will be better than
getting your hopes up and then being disappointed.
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Chapel
Weddings: There are numerous small
commercial settings that specialize in small church-like weddings.
If there is one in your location, you will probably find it in the Yellow
Pages. However, keep in mind that these are purely money-making businesses.
Be sure that you are aware of which services they provide and those which
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Private
Weddings: These can take the form
of a small living room wedding with a justice of the peace or a local
minister or
an outside wedding under a large tent set up by aprofessional wedding planner
with no expenses spared for a grand occassion. Again, you will have
to determine to what extent you want to go and what the expenses will be.
Even though this is one of the most special events of anyone's life, reason
and good sense should always rule the emotions. Make this day a memorable
one but not to the degree that it will take a long time to pay it off.
Any money that should have been used for those things to assist the actual
marriage
in getting started without being in debt immediately needs to be carefully
considered.
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When the Big Day
Arrives.....
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Keep Things
in Perspective: Remember, this is
your wedding--you and the one you love enough to want to spend the rest
of your lives committed to each other.
The natural tendency will be to let all of the wedding plans and details
distract you from what this is really all about. Don't let others
or any ruffles that take place put a dent in the joy and happiness that
should predominate all that happens on this most special of days.
Also, when you are standing next to your love, look deeply into his/her
eyes as you say the vows to each other. It's your wedding.
Deal?
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Avoiding
Disaster: No one plans on the cake
not arriving on time, the minister being late, or a mother-in-law who wants
to change the ceremony at the last minute. These things just happen.
They are unexpected so you may as well expect them to occur. Stay
calm and go with the flow. What seems like a disaster on that day
will be the stuff of laughter in the future. This writer remembers
a wedding in which a policeman came into the church sanctuary just before
the pastor pronounced the couple as "husband and wife." The officer
blurted out, "If anyone owns a blue 1995 Buick, you had better go get it
because it is rolling down the hill and the men out there are getting tired
of holding on to it. The bride's aunt stood up and shouted, "Oh,
my God, that's my car!" It happens. Don't let these things
destroy your special day.
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A Final Important
Thought...
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Remember, a wedding lasts only for a day--a marriage takes a lifetime.
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Wedding Resource
Links
Online
Helps for Planning Any Sized Wedding
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and toleration regarding the many variations of primary relationships that
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with a better understanding of the numerous cultural, historical, preferential,
religious, sexual, and sociological approaches to coupling that have always
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the basic human need to love and be loved takes on many forms which are
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