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| Sexual intimacy and coupling are interchangeble
terms. Polite society attempts to skirt around the concept of sex
when it comes to the topic of relationships. The idea here is to
emphasize all of the other many aspects of coupling and to down play the
physical element. However, those who are openly honest in this regard
are the first to admit that human sexuality
is the major reason why people couple in the first place. If this
were not so, then we would all remain single
and focus our need for companionship by other means. Furthermore,
it would be impossible to convince the vast majority of people in this
world that they should get the idea of copulation out of their minds.
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one could convince their fellow humans that sex was no longer necessary
would be like trying to stiop the sun from coming up in the morning.
With these thoughts in mind, we would like to present
a page on human sexuality that explores the joys of sensual
pleasure that is derived when two people truly know how to stimulate each
other.
Some may find themselves feeling uncomfortable considering
the following topics. All we can say is that we are designed to enjoy
the pleasures of sex and, since most of you are going to experience as
much as possible, you might as well know how to really do it in the best
way possible.
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Foreplay...
As part of a broader sexual interaction, foreplay is considered
to be an essential component that stimulates and prepares the body and
the mind/emotions to move through the phases of the sexual response cycle
in preparation for orgasm. Touch is a key element of foreplay because the
surface of the body is covered with many receptor cells (nerve endings)
that transmit pleasurable sensations to the brain. Some parts of the body,
particularly the clitoris, penis, nipples, fingertips, palms, lips, tongues,
and soles of the feet have more densely packed nerve endings. These sites
are sometimes called the erogenous zones, although, in fact, the entire
surface of the skin has been referred to as the body's largest sex organ
because all forms of pleasure during foreplay are transmitted through the
skin. Consequently, caresses, hugging, holding
hands, and related acts of physical intimacy provide pleasurable stimulation.
In addition, expressing key cultural meanings about caring, safety, and
arousal, are also important acts of foreplay. Many people also find light
touching or tickling of the surface of the skin to be especially stimulating.
Back rubs and massages (with or without oil or other artificial lubrications)
are considered to be very erotic by some. Others prefer more intensive
hand to body caressing and exploration of the erogenous zones, commonly
referred to as petting.
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Erogenous Zones...
These are parts of the body that, when stimulated, elicit
sexual arousal. Precisely which body parts are sources of sexual arousal
is a very individual experience. The genitals are the most obvious erogenous
zones, but many parts of the body not involved in reproduction
are sensitive to sexual touch. The largest sensory organ for both men and
women is the skin itself, especially the inner thigh area, the neck, the
breasts and nipples, and the perineum (the area between the sexual organ
and the anus). Other erogenous zones include the eyelids, the ears,
and the shoulders. Many people also find that having their feet stroked
is arousing. Stroking, caressing and massaging of erogenous zones can be
titillating forms of sensual pleasure in and of themselves, or they can
be invitations to further sexual activity.
The mouth, including the lips and tongue, for most people,
is an area of high erotic potential. Kissing
is one act that uses the sensitivity of this region in a sexually stimulating
way.
The anus, rectum and buttocks are also potentially erogenous
zones. The anus is highly sensitive to touch and the insertion of a finger,
object or penis in the anus and rectum is part of some people's sexual
activity. The buttocks are sometimes a target for light spanking
and stroking, which can feel very arousing to some people.
Deliberately exploring yourself and your partner is the
first step in discovering which body parts are sexually responsive and
the types of stimulation that feel best. Varying the pressure of touching
and stroking the body from head to toe with different materials, such as
a silk scarf, a soft brush, or a feather, may help to identify previously
undiscovered erogenous zones.
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G-spot (or Grafenberg
spot)...
This is a dime to half dollar sized, localized area of
especially high sensitivity, situated beneath the surface of a woman's
vagina on the wall toward the front of her body. While location varies,
the G-spot is typically located about half way between the pubic bone and
the cervix, about three inches into the vagina.Researchers have found that
some women experience sensitivity more generally along the upper vaginal
wall, rather than in a definable spot. Because the G-spot is beneath the
surface of the vaginal wall, it must be stimulated indirectly through the
vaginal wall. Many women reportedly notice an urge to urinate when the
spot is initially stimulated, but find continued stimulation (with an empty
bladder), very pleasurable. Some go on to experience orgasm, and some expel
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Female Breasts...
Women's breasts have three levels of significance: they
can feed a baby; they can give erotic pleasure; and they play a large part
in shaping a woman's self-image.
In response to sexual stimulation, a woman's breasts may
undergo changes. Her nipples typically become erect during sexual excitement.
As excitement proceeds, the areolae begin to swell, continuing to the point
where the earlier nipple erection may look less pronounced. The veins in
the breast often become more visible as a result of the increased blood
flowing into them, and, in women who have not breast-fed, there may also
be a small increase in breast size.
Often it is the woman's male partner who derives more
pleasure out of fondling her breasts, and she may participate mainly because
she knows her lover enjoys it. Furthermore, the women who do become sexually
aroused when their breasts are touched do so regardless of their breast
size.
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Oral Sex...
Oral-genital sex means both mouth contact with the vagina,
which is called cunnilingus, and mouth contact with the penis, which is
called fellatio. Cunnilingus comes from a Latin word for vulva (a woman's
exterior sex organs), cunnus, and from the Latin word for licking, lingere.
Fellatio comes from the Latin word fellare, meaning to suck. Either form
of oral sex can be done with one partner stimulating the other individually,
or both partners can stimulate each other's genitals simultaneously. Oral
sex given simultaneously is commonly called 69, or, the French translation,
soixante-neuf. This is because the body position of a couple having mutual
oral sex resembles the numeral 69.
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Orgasm...
This is the
sudden discharge of accumulated sexual tension resulting in rhythmic muscular
contractions in the pelvic region that produce intensely pleasurable sensations
followed by rapid relaxation. It typically lasts for several seconds. Orgasm
is also in part a psychological experience of pleasure and abandon, when
the mind is focused solely on the personal experience. It is sometimes
called climaxing or coming.
Orgasms vary from person to person and for each individual
at different times. Sometimes orgasm is an explosive, amazing rush of sensations,
while others are milder, subtler, and less intense. The differences in
intensity of orgasms can be attributed to physical factors, such as fatigue
and length of time since last orgasm, as well as to a wide range of psychosocial
factors, including mood, relation to partner, activity, expectations, and
feelings about the experience. |
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The mission of this not-for-profit website is to promote clear insights
and toleration regarding the many variations of primary relationships that
exist in our world. We ask for neither acceptance or approval but
hope that each visitor who reviews the pages of this site will leave them
with a better understanding of the numerous cultural, historical, preferential,
religious, sexual, and sociological approaches to coupling that have always
existed and will continue to exist as long as there are at least two human
beings living on this planet. If the effort put into creating and
maintaining this site results in others coming to the realization that
the basic human need to love and be loved takes on many forms which are
accepted by those who practice them, whether right or wrong as determined
by the personal belief system of others, then it will have served it's
purpose well. |
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