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Seduction:-The
act of inducing to engage in sex. The term 'seduction' is to be understood
on this page in
the context of two consenting adults only.
Sensuous: Appealing
to or
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Redefining Seduction...
Unlike most of the topics covered in this web site, the
art of seduction is probably the most misunderstood of all. In fact,
a search through the Internet for information on the subject of seduction
proves this point even further. It is presented as everything from
a list of extremely bad flirting techniques to "how to get a woman into
bed within three minutes"--as one site proclaims. Most of them are
less informative and more commercially orientated in that they are either
trying to sell a book or cassette on how to "get laid" or "make her want
you immediately." Of course, these sites were constructed by males.
Who else?
This webmaster is also a male. At the risk of sounding
arrogant, I am embarassed by my male counterparts and feel driven to set
the record straight on this important facet of human sexuality.
This page is an attempt to do exactly that.
The fact is that seduction does indeed have as it's ultimate
goal the experience of sharing physical intimacy (okay, having sex) with
the object of one's desire. No one would argue with this. From
time immemorial, men have been trying to convince females to disrobe, assume
the position, and love every second of it. Furthermore, women enjoy
seduction. Few men realize that a man chases a woman until she catches
him. Human beings are sexual creatures. We love to seduce and
we love being seduced.
The key to being a master/mistress of seduction is the
full acceptance of the other person's humanity. Getting someone into
bed by coercian, cajoling, convincing, and stuffing them with alcohol is
one thing. On the other hand, causing them to desire you and then want
to be with you many times afterwards is what true seduction is all about.
If you are looking for one night stands with people who
are out of control accompanied by a good case of HIV, there are many resources
that will help you reach those goals. If you are looking for some
good information on how to be a desireable person who has the ability and
power to seduce the object of your love while viewing that person as a
valuable human being, then read on.... |
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Seduction is
Visual...
Women have no problem with this concept. The "fairer
sex" works hard to be visually pleasing (try shaving your legs sometime--it
will give you an idea as to how hard they do work at it). They literally
support the economy between clothing stores, hairdressers, cosmetics, general
beauty products, and getting their nails done every few weeks. Most
of them learn the subtle little tricks that enables them to present their
bodies in the best possible way. When in seduction mode, they know
how to look sexy, walk sexy, sit sexy, smile sexy, laugh sexy, and be sexy.
They are sexy.
On the other hand, men are convinced that females love
guys with stubble on their chins, wearing an old pair of jeans and a tee-shirt
with their favorite beer logo on it, while puffing on a cigarette and proclaiming,
"Got the hots for me, baby, don't ya'?" Attractive? Not even
close!
Whether you are male or female; regardless of your sexual
orientation; no matter what kind of body houses your mind, heart, and soul--whatever
you do, determine to present yourself in the best possible way. If
it means losing some weight, getting some new clothes, or even changing
the brand of deoderant you use, do it.
The person you want to seduce will need to "see" you as
being desirable.
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Seduction is
Alluring...
The dance between the sexes is a wonderful thing when
it comes to the subject of seduction. Making ourselves alluring and
attractive to the one we desire is both fun and exciting. If that
were not so, then there would not be as much need for glamorous lingerie
shoppes, hair dressers, rows and rows of cosmetic shelves in department
stores, stores that sell sexy clothing, and hundreds of fragrances from
namebrand manufacturers. Women know how to be alluring.
Men just try to look nice.
Yet, there isn't a person alive who doesn't appreciate
a lover who works hard to be attractive and inviting.
It all depends on what turns on the object of your desire.
Some women love a man with a full beard, whereas, others couldn't tolerate
all that facial hair. Some men are switched on by a female in black,
lacy lingerie and five inch heels while other men couldn't care less as
they would rather have less packaging to deal with. A pair of sexy
legs are appealing to a man. Women seem to prefer manly posteriors
(okay, butts). It is all very subjective and based on personal preferences.
The point is that, in order to be seductive, you will
have to do your homework and know what turns on his/her switch. That
means that you will need to get to know the person to accomplish this.
Witness the case of the woman who was astounded that her
"go-for-it" approach to seducing a man caused her to strip naked in front
of him and proclaim exactly what she wanted. He quickly excused himself
and left. When the man was asked why he responded as he did, he replied
that he could easily have enjoyed physical intimacy with her but would
have appreciated a slower approach with as much romance thrown in
as possible. She assumed that all men will jump on a naked female
body if given half the chance. In this case, she was wrong and it
cost her the guy she really wanted. She didn't take the time to find
out how to go about seducing him.
To be alluring, one must know what it is that allures.
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Seduction is
Romantic...
It has wisely been said that "Romance is all the little
kisses in between." Getting someone to desire you means doing those
little things "in between." Buying her a bouquet of roses is great
but making her feel cherished and loved is just as important. Parading
in front of him with that sexy, short dress is sure to cause temptation,
but does he feel needed by you in ways other than sexual. Romance
is the fine art of genuinely treating the object of your love with a sweet
caringness that arrouses the desire in them to want to be with you.
If you want to seduce him/her, be romantic.
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Seduction is
Playful...
Who said it had to be serious and sensual all the time?
Seduction can be fun as well.
One of our visitors shared how she seduced her new lover
the first time while sharing a meal together. We won't be too descriptive
here but to say only that she did certain things with food items while
she was eating them in a way that he definitely got the point. She
said that she had a wonderful time doing it and they look back and laugh
about it now.
Another fellow testified that he found the door of her
apartment open and a trail of rose petals leading to her bedroom.
He followed the trail. He was glad that he did. She was glad
that he did. They have been married now for seven years.
If you think it will be more effective, add a smile to
your seduction plan.
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Seduction is
Sensuous...
There is nothing wrong with eroticism when one finds him/herself
formulating a plan to seduce someone.
This can be done both verbally and visually.
Although most women are turned off by a man who uses gross
terms to describe their body parts (albeit they use some of these same
terms amongst themselves with no offense taken, e.g. boobs), there are
ways to seduces a person with words. Of course, we are not talking
about talking dirty as much as "naughty talk." For example, take
the woman who shared with us how that she taunted her new lover by whispering
obscene things into his ears while they were slow dancing at a nightclub.
The naughtier she got, the more he played along. She claimed that
it worked. We do not doubt her.
Of course, visual stimulation is a key factor in a successful
seduction as well. Whether it be provocative clothing, a sexy look,
a bright red set of erotic lingerie, or a demonstration of one's ability
to dance the night away--the eyes have a way of telling the brian and heart
to give in and let go.
Yes, it is true that men are definitely and decidedly
visual creatures. However, what woman doesn't look at the photographs
first when perusing an Internet site filled with personals?
"Baby, you look beautiful tonight," he said with
a tinge of seduction in his voice.
She leaned into him, tucked her head under his chin and
replied, "You make me feel that way."
It was the tenderness with which she said it that encouraged
him on; a kind of vulnerability peeking out through the eyes of her otherwise
confident personality.
Turning her face up to him, she closed her eyes as if
she was awaiting his next thought.
He bent his head down to kiss her.
She responded to the touch of his lips against hers with
a soft, sweet, gentle kiss of her own.
As he began to unbutton her top.....
Seduction.
© all rights reserved - 10/22/2001
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and toleration regarding the many variations of primary relationships that
exist in our world. We ask for neither acceptance or approval but
hope that each visitor who reviews the pages of this site will leave them
with a better understanding of the numerous cultural, historical, preferential,
religious, sexual, and sociological approaches to coupling that have always
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maintaining this site results in others coming to the realization that
the basic human need to love and be loved takes on many forms which are
accepted by those who practice them, whether right or wrong as determined
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