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When it comes to sexual
appetites,
men are like dimmer switches. They are always "on," albeit dimmed
down until a female turns their dials up again. By contrast, women
are more like on-off switches. Their sexual desires are basically
"off" until a male to whom they are attracted switches them back on.
Men are dimmer switches.
Women are on-off switches |
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Women Can Be
On or Off...
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There's no doubt that younger women are more sexually
active. The youthful drive to reproduce is natural to those still
in the prime of their childbearing years.
The need to mate, feel desired as a woman, and experience the wonder of
being loved is natural and understandable. However, as a woman matures,
the harder experiences of life teach her that love, trust, and faithfulness
are not always to be expected. Love has a way of fading if not fed
continual doses of heart-to-heart moments throughout the lifetime of a
relationship. Trust, the ever constant primary need of every woman,
can be threatened by men who prove to be lest than totally trustworthy.
A single act of unfaithfulness can destroy a woman's confidence in her
man and, regardless of any amends he might make, will afflict her view
of the relationship forever. Women tend to ponder such things
in their hearts and find it almost impossible to let infringements upon
their primary relationships go, let alone forgive or forget them.
As a result, they reach for the on-off switch and, once
the relationship is over, regardless of any formal recognition of the same,
they are turned off to the one who once kept them turned on to love.
Furthermore, females have the ability to go for long periods
of time without sensing any express need for sexual intimacy. In
regard to the time following the ending of a long-term relationship, they
are able to go for months (perhaps even years) without so much as a hint
of the same kind of overwhelming desire for it that men are never able
to shake when in the same situation.
Women can be turned off to sex for a long time.
Then, when a male comes along who flips their switch, they are good to
go once again. Men cannot relate to this. However, it is a
fact of life and just one more obvious indication of the differences between
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Men Are Always
On.....
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On the other hand, men never turn off their desire for sexual
intimacy. Although, it is difficult for women to comprehend, males
think about sex continually. Their need to experience it on a continual
basis is woven into the fabric of their very beings. They never,
ever turn off their desire for it. Like a dimmer switch that is always
on, they simply turn it down during the normal moments of each day and
then back up when a female catches their attention. Any woman who finds
it difficult to comprehend this will always be disappointed when a man
tries to seduce her within the first
three dates. However, coming to terms with the natural design of
men in this regard will give any woman the edge in controlling whatever
situation she finds herself in regarding a sexually agressive male.
At least, she won't be disappointed when his sexual overtones begin to
exert themselves. Furthermore, her realization that this is indeed
the case will enable her to attract those men in whom she interested while
avoiding the rest. |
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Turning On a
Woman.....
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This is where romance
comes in. Expecting a normal sexually active female to simply look
at a male and beg him to take her to bed is unrealistic. It might
happen occasionally once a relationship is secure and well established.
However, the general rule of thumb regarding women is that they truly enjoyed
being romanced and seduced as contrasted to being expected to perform whenever
he is "in the mood."
On the other hand, men tend to think of themselves as
"Fifteen Minute Wonders." Whatever it takes to satisfy themselves
is enough. As a result, those who are more self-centered in their
sexual appetites leave their women starved for tenderness, intimacy,
and even love. The need to be kissed, held, caressed, and touched
are the things that satisfies a female. Her need to orgasm
is not as crucial as his. As long as all of those wonderful and tender
expressions of love are demonstrated in his overtures to her, she is good
to go. Therefore, a truly caring man will both take time to plan
special times with his love as well as taking plenty of time with her to
pleasure her as well as himself.
Jumping on a woman just to gratify one's own sexual appetite
is a sure way to wear out a relationship. As one woman put it, "I
might as well have a remote controlled television installed in the ceiling
over our bed so that at least I'll have something interesting to watch
while he gets himself off." You have to admit, any woman who even
feels remotely (no pun intended) the same is neither turned on nor will
she be satisfied in the relationship.
Wise is the man who realizes that women are neither like
men in this regard nor do they respond the same way.
A male's dimmer switch will automatically turn itself
up to full brightness simply by thinking about being with a female.
Conversely, a woman needs to be assured that she is loved, needed, desireable,
and cared about for the person she is within as well as her exterior physical
features.
Self-centered men perceive romance and seduction
to be too much work to get what they want. By contrast, a real man
knows how to both turn on a woman as well as satisfy all of her sexual
and emotional needs.
Such men are sought after and very much appreciated
by their women/woman.
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Turning On a
Man.....
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There
is no need to discuss this. He's always on. That's the point.
© all rights reserved - 2-22-2003
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