|Black & White
Some see life as being either black or white. This
kind of mindset sees everything as being either right or wrong, good or
bad, righteous or unrighteous. There is nothing much in between.
To them, truth is an absolute and anything that does not correspond with
it must be a lie--or close to it. Furthermore, compromise of any
kind is out of the question.
Those who subscribe to this approach usually fall into
the conservative camp whether it be applicable to politics, economics,
No doubt, there is a kind of security in this approach
to life. If, so the reasoning goes, fundamental truths are to be
accepted and believed, then all things must stand in judgement of them.
Since truth is pure, then white is it's color. By contrast, black
is it's opposite. Therefore, the need of those who ascribe to this
lifeview are driven to cover their worlds with as much white as possible.
Anything that smacks of black (including the many shades of gray in between)
are both suspect and possibly even evil.
Giving those who hold the "black and white" view the benefit
of the doubt, it is understandable that their determination to protect
truth as they see it is, in fact, their strength. No one can dispute
the fact that conservative thinking has played an important part in preserving
our society and civilization. Those who see life in concrete terms
have proven themselves to be a counterbalance to the too liberal thinking
of others who, if allowed free reign, would have destroyed our civilization
However, the "black and white" segment of our society
has it's radicals. Whether they be neo-Nazis, anti-governmental
foes, the Klu-Klux-Klan, or fundamentalist religionists, the lessons of
history condemn them as being the enemies of humanity. If you doubt
this to be true, feel free to research the lives of Adolph Hitler, Jim
Jones, Jim and Tammy Baker, etc.
When applied to primary relationships, black and white
lovers tend to be less romantic and more pragmatic. Of course, this
is a generalization. At any rate, to be conservative obviously carries
over into the ralm of interpersonal and even intimate
relationships. This is fine if two people have found harmony together
as mutual conservatives. However, should the object of their love
be of a more liberal mind, it is doubtful that any real harmony will ever
be achieved without major compromises. The more liberal mate will
experience some very real disatisfaction if a relationship is attempted.
Furthermore, there is always the possibility that a couple may start out
as being conservative but one or the other may change their views.
Life is not always so black and white. Neither is it so clear cut
for a lifetime.
On the other hand, there are those who approach
life in a very different way. They see everything in varying shades
of passionate red. To them, truth is not so white nor are things
that seem to be doubtful all that black. They perceive real love
as being a bright red and a love gone sour as being a dull red. The
concept of counterbalancing black and white is not a part of their mindset.
They simply have a great passion for life and are driven to experience
all of it.
Red people are more liberal in their philosophy.
They represent themsevles as Democrats, free thinkers, pro-choicers, post-modern
theologians, and many other forms of liberal thinking. They, too,
have contributed immensely to our civilization and culture. Where
would we be without Thomas Jefferson, Franklin D. Roosevelt, and John F.
Kennedy? Because of them, we have a free nation and have survived
the onsloughts of true evil.
Yet, liberalism's history is marred by those who promoted
it and proved to be more dangerous and destructive than diligent.
Witness the horrors of Caesar Caligula and then compare him to Bill Clinton,
the fall of Communism, and the failure of theological modernity.
Again, the radicals on the left have proven themselves to be just as rediculous
as those on the right.
Again, when applied to primary relationships, red
lovers tend to be more romantic and
very passionate. This is not true in every case but is generally
true. Any couple who favors this approach to loving relationships
will find themselves gripped with tremendous passion but possibly floundering
when it comes to anything substansive between them. Liberals are
the idealists amongst us. However, we do not live in an ideal world
and the realities of it's harshness are sometimes too much for two "red
lovers" to cope with. Passion sometimes becomes red hot and the ending
of it can be much more dramatic than the beginning.
Black and white is one extreme and red is the other.
& Red Lovers...
Those who are familiar with Romanceopedia.com
have no doubt picked up on the three basic colors that are included in
the lay-out of every page. Black, white, and red are the only colors
that make up this site. This scheme was not chosen just because they
are rich and basic colors which, when blended together, are pleasing to
the eye. On the contrary, they represent a kind of symbolism.
You see, those who follow either the ultra-conservative
or far left approaches to life and love represent two extremes. The
lessons of history dictate that both counter balance each other, resulting
in whatever way any generation has of dealing with the challenges which
Yet, there is a third segement of society that dwells
within the netherlands of human experience. They are those who see
moderation, balance, and every conceivable shade of color as being representative
as to how they approach everything and anything in life. Truth is
still white, error is still black, but the spectrum of colors in between
floods their lives with amazing variations and a much broader acceptance
of others. Rejecting the radical extremes, these free spirited souls
reference their world from the middle of the color spectrum and move out
in equal proportions in each direction. As a result, their capacity
for accepting diversity is that much greater. Toleration is woven
into the fabric of their demeanor and their world view is limited more
by their own experience than any kind of self-imposed lopsidedness imposed
by the philosophies of others.
Unlike the other two extremes, this type of person sees
love relationships as a way to share their worlds with those they care
about the most. They are eclectic in their taste for life and their
hunger for experience. Yet, they are able to limit themselves in
regard to the object of their love. Should their special someone
tend more toward conservatism, they can adapt with ease. The reverse
would be just as true. Still, they cannot tolerate either one of
the exptremes. Radicalism is anathema to them.
The happiest of relationships can be experienced
between any two people who have such a broad lifeview. However, anyone
tending toward the more divergent approaches to life should consider themselves
blessed to have someone so balanced in their lives. Furthermore,
anyone who sees the value of such an approach to life and love would do
well to develop themselves in that direction.
Black and white lovers have their place. Red
lovers have their place as well. However, who amongst them is not
powerfully attracted to those who live in a world filled with all colors
of the rainbow? On the other hand, foolish is he/she who does not
value such a person, especially if he/she is already in their lives.
What color is your love?
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