Have Fantasies, Too by Nancy Fagan, M.S.
Sexual fantasies are an intriguing subject...and not only
men have them. The truth is, women have them too, but they are limited
to three general types. Women can be just as sexual as a man if he learns
what fantasy buttons to push.
In order to rouse a woman's fantasies, it takes a little
work. First of all, when you set out to stimulate your partner, you
need to narrow your focus
down to the three specific types of fantasies: 1. Women with
women, 2. Women in Control, and 3. Sexually insatiable.
Too often, when using fantasies, men include the things
that turn themselves on rather than what arouses a woman. Unfortunately,
this is the quickest way to turn a woman off. Women have specific
requirements in their fantasies, primarily, a slow building pace before
and after the sex act. As a matter
of fact, the non-sexual touching is equally arousing to a woman.
When using fantasies with your partner, pay close attention to the core
elements in each of the types listed below and include those details during
Fantasy One: Women with Women. This fantasy
is alluring to women because its primary activities consists of two aspects
of sex that women crave: oral satisfaction and tenderness. The key
to this fantasy is slow seduction. It begins with caressing and holding,
builds to passionate, mutual orgasms, and finishes the way it began-tenderly.
Fantasy Two: Women in Control. The central
theme in this fantasy is a woman who has the power to maker her partner
cum. This is the woman who plays the controlling seductress whether
it's through the role of dominatrix, exhibitionist, or any number of controlling
women roles that turn a man on. Her arousal comes from watching
a man lose his control to her.
Fantasy Three: Sexually Insatiable. Unlike
the other two types of fantasies, this one is more "manly" because the
focus is on the sex act. Common themes in these fantasies are: engaging
in forbidden love, oral sex, multiple orgasms, orgies, public sex, and
anything involving sexually adventurous actions.
The easiest way to begin is to start out slowly.
You might, for instance, bring up the topic of sexual fantasies. All you
need to say is, "Which of the following three would turn you on more?
At that time, mention the fantasies above. The mere act of talking
about it will arouse her.
So, if you want to turn your partner on through sexual
fantasies, all you have to do is start talking about the subject.
It may be a slow process, but it's guaranteed to create an insatiable woman!
Have A Message by Nancy Fagan, M.S.
Leaving a phone message for your partner can be a creative
way to express your feelings. All you have to do is call your partner when
you know he isn't home. If you're at a loss for what to say, use one of
the short messages I suggest below.
Go ahead and try one out on your partner. You may
be surprised by the response you get!
Each day is another opportunity to express your ever-evolving
feelings of love. With all of life's ups and downs, you will be able to
express your feelings a million different ways if you go with what you're
feeling at any given moment. The important part is letting the one
you love know that you care.
"I didn't think about you once today. Twice, three, six times maybe, but
"Hi, I just called the hotline, and they said you are on duty tonight.
My romantic side needs first aid; what is your prescription? Please return
this call ASAP."
"I always wondered where the missing part of my heart was until I found
"I never quite understood how time could stand still until I met you."
"You're your, and I'm me, but I like "we" better. I can hardly wait to
"I was walking in the garden a few minutes ago and smelled an incredible
flower and thought about you. It's beautiful to see our love blossom."
"Hi! This is the person who's crazy about you. Please be ready for a warm
hug when I see you tonight."
"No one has ever touched my heart the way you have. Please keep touching
Life Balanced by Nancy Fagan, M.S.
In most couples today, both people have careers. Dual-career
couples often experience an increase in relationship stress and a decrease
in the amount of time they have for each other. As long as the relationship
is well-organized, and nothing unexpected comes up, work and relationships
run smoothly. However, life usually doesn't work that way.
Couples must keep their lives in balance. If they don't,
their relationships will suffer. You won't fall out of love just because
you're a workaholic. But continually putting your other responsibilities
ahead of your relationship means that you and your partner will pay in
terms of emotional neglect for each other's needs. Get a sitter if you
need some time alone. Take a sick day to put your relationship back in
good health. Do what's necessary to balance the needs of your life with
the needs of your relationship.
and Pitter Patter: A Successful Mix
by Nancy Fagan, M.S.
No two people showed their love more than Jim and Della
in the story of The Gift of the Magi by O. Henry. If you don't remember
the story, it was about a poor couple at Christmas. The only two possessions
of value in their home were Della's long, beautiful hair and Jim's watch
that had once been his grandfather's. As the story goes, Della sells her
hair to buy Jim a chain for his watch, and Jim sells his watch to buy Della
combs for her hair. This story is about giving for the sake of love, even
if you have to sacrifice the one thing you treasure the most.
The Gift of the Magi illustrates what this article is
about: romantic gestures. A romantic gesture is a physical way to show
your partner you care. The important aspect of the gesture isn't its grandness
or cost. The intent behind
the gesture is the true present. Romance boils down to making the extra
effort, even when you think you don't have the time or the energy to show
your love. This is especially true when children are added to your love
To make it a successful transition, all you need to do
is learn a few final points about how to keep your romance alive by paying
attention to the little things. Everyday gestures of love show your partner
how much you appreciate him or her-as a partner, in addition to being a
parent-and demonstrate that the
relationship is a top priority. When you learn how to protect your
investment in your relationship, you and your partner will bask in the
rewards of a romantic life together.
Nancy Fagan, M.S., is the author of “The Complete
Idiot’s Guide to Romance” and “Desirable Men: How to Find Them.”
VISITOR DEFINES ROMANCE.....
doubt that people know what being romantic means. Perhaps to
some it means flowers; pehaps to some it means candle light. Perhaps
it means an age when men were chivalrous. To me romance is the spirit
of the love, it is the dance of wonder and childlike contentment.
It is the magic of the spirit that shares itself with another. It
is the inside on the outside. It perhaps is the spirit that is otherwise
hidden by the body."
~G. Cross, Maryland, USA
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