| It has never been so easy to find that special someone.
Dr. Neil Clark Warren, founder of eHarmony,
is now considered the guru of Internet matchmaking web sites. Not
only that, but he is a leading psychologist, relationships expert, theologian,
and marriage counselor.
Warren's online service debuted on August 22, 2000.
Three months later, he was pleasantly surprised to find that over 20,000
single people had signed up. Today, 18 million registered users are
finding each other on eHarmony.
Now, that's success!
There are few Americans who are not familiar with Warren's
television commercials which show numerous real couples who met and married
as a result of his online service. He had previously starred in his
own commercials to promote his unique approach (finding compatibility with
others by filling out the web site questionaire) but has more and more
opted to feature real couples who found love using the service.
Warren has counseled thousands of couples in his own private
practice. He considers himself a "front row witness to the horror
of divorce." With more than half of first time marriages failing
as well as 70% of second marriages failing as well, he decided to do the
research necessary to do what he could to help.
The result of his research was that of debunking the age
old concept that opposites attract. Since then, Warren's most often
quoted statement is, "The truth is, opposites may attract, but just as
often, they attack!"
| Warren conducted over five hundred "divorce autopsies,"
which included interviewing the former spouses, their children, and even
the parents of the divorced parties. What he found is that the reasons
for the divorces could be traced back to issues that occurred at or near
the beginning of the relationships.
The next step was to administer a series of standard tests
to some 5,000 married couples to determine how compatible they were.
This group was eventually narrowed down to 800 solid test individuals which
were comprised of four groups with an equal number in each. The result
was that 200 were very happily married, 200 were fairly happy, 200 were
not happy at all, and 200 were very discouraged.
After comparing these four groups together, Warren found
the smoking gun.
It turned out that theose who were struggling in their
relationships were not as compatible as those who were not.
The compatibility categories that surfaced the most were...
Furthermore, it became apparant that it was not necessarily
a high level of accomplishment in any of these categories that was expected
but, rather, confidence that two individuals were compatible in the level
in which they manifested these qualities.
Sense of Humor
Warren based his matchmaking
web site approach on this premise and it has obviously borne tremendous
results for those who use his service.
| At age 73, Dr. Warren is not as active in running eHarmony
on a daily basis. However, he remains active in the overall strategy
of the company. Still totally committed to his overall philosophy
and approach, this online matchmaking
service continues to grow by leaps and bounds.
As Warren looks back on the success of eHarmony,
he says, "I didn't come close to dreaming a dream this big. I mean,
eighteen million people on a site."
In fact, the site is now a household word. Even
Jay Leno has spoofed it on the Saturday Night Live.
Here are some of Dr. Warren's insights regarding what
singles are looking for...
Single people "...are dying for a deep sense of companionship and to
feel really good about themselves. When you find someone who makes
you feel good about yourself, you want to be around that person all the
The one essential quality to a successful relationship
is "Honesty. I find singles are too forgiving of people who lie to
them. They think they won't lie the next time. But liars tend
to be liars."
Regarding the question as to whether or not opposites
attract, "I have been the greatest opponent of this because I believe so
much in the importance of similarites. The truth is, opposites attract,
then they attack."
| Both single and resingled people are now able to meet
others so much more easily thanks to the Internet. Numerous online
and dating services have made this a possibility in our time. Not
only has eHarmony led
the fray in regard to online meeting but many other top sites like
Singles, etc., have since come into existence and are doing as well.
Romanceopedia predates most of them, so it has been a
forerunner in recommending the more popular and reputable matchmaking
sites to the general online public. As a result, many of our site
visitors have found love in a new relationship due to our online presence.
Vicent would encourage all single people to check out
his page of recommendations by clicking the banner link below. His
reviews include a summary of the site and an indication as to it's success
in bringing people together. He also provides links ot various specialty
sites for those who are looking for a more specific kind of compatible
Would you agree that the greatest need we share as humans
is to love and be loved?
May you find love and may it last forever.
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