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Now, let's get down to business, ladies...
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Give Clear Signals: Men are notoriously bad at interpreting
signals from women. Know what you want when you flirt and make sure your
signals are clear and that they convey what you mean. It’s not fair to
flirt with someone for the fun of it, unless they are obviously flirty
themselves. Flirting for fun is fine when you know someone a little better.
If you genuinely want to meet people then, by all means, flirt. However,
if that is the case, then you should make sure that you know how to separate
the sexual flirting signals from the 'hi, I'm friendly' flirting signals.
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Great Attitudes Are Attractive: People love being around
charismatic people because they spread good feelings. Get yourself into
the right attitude for flirting and go for it. Feel good about yourself
and others will feel good about you in return.
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Glamorous Clothes & Accesories Draw Attention: If
you want someone to approach you, be sure to wear
or carry something that is eye-catching and noticeable to you (e.g. jewelry,
knit sweater, . You will be surprised how much easier it is to go
up to someone and ask a question about something unique or attractive that
they are wearing.
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Getting Situated to be Approachable: Separate yourself
from your friends. If you go out with a group of friends or even
one girlfriend, make sure you separate from them so that you are more approachable.
However, use good discernment in regard to safety. No man wants to
be rejected in front of a group of women, and he may well feel he cannot
approach you when you are ‘protected’ by a herd of other women!
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Greeting Him with a Nice Voice: Check your voice.
Does your voice sound like a dental drill or do you wash people in waves
of sensual sound? It doesn't
have to sound sexy, but it should at least sound feminine, warm, and inviting.
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"Get-lost-nerd" Statements Should Be Avoided: If you are
not interested, be polite when rejecting a man. ‘Get lost nerd’ is
not the way to say "No." Men who approach women may do so clumsily.
If you are not interested, make it clear and be polite. It can be very
difficult to get up the courage to approach a woman. Refuse someone in
the way you would appreciate being turned down yourself. If you are sure
someone is not for you you can say "I am sure you will find someone who
is right for you, but I am sorry I don’t think it’s me."
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Get Noticed By Being Interested: Cut down the talk about
yourself and ask him open ended questions. Find out about him. Men
love to talk about themselves and feel flattered when a female shows an
interest in them. This also gives him the cue that you like to know a little
about him before exchanging numbers or accepting a date.
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Generate Enthusiasm for His Interests: Ask him what he
enjoys doing. Women and men often tend to fall back on the line ‘What
do you do’? To some men, this may seem like you are ‘checking for
wallet padding’. Alternatively, not everyone is doing the work they
love and the question may put them on the spot. Men are much more
activity orientated whereas women
like to talk about emotions. Asking them what they enjoy doing in
their life will allow find out more about what makes them tick.
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Giving Out Information: If you give out your number, give
the genuine one. Carry a personal or business card to hand out.
This way you know that when you give out your phone number you either give
out the genuine one or not at all. Imagine what it must feel like plucking
up the courage to dial a woman’s number only to find it is the a local
gas station.
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Go for It: Make the first move! The vast majority
of
men would love to be approached by a woman. If women are looking
for equality then it is only fair that they do their share of the asking.
It will also give you an opportunity to understand what men have to go
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Flirting Tips
for the Guys...
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Protecting Your Options: Some men flirt with women primarily
to get sex. However, if you put
aside that possibility and flirt just to be friendly you are opening yourself
to a wider range of opportunities. You may well end up with a new
lover. Conversely, if that doesn’t work out, you could meet
someone who becomes a good friend instead and who knows someone that might
be more compatible. Keep your options open.
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Personal Care Is Essential: Make sure your hair is clean
and your body and breath smell good. You don’t have to douse yourself in
after-shave. Take care of personal hygiene at the basic level.
As like seeks like, dirty unwashed people will end up with dirty unwashed
people! Fine if it suits you but if you are looking for something
else, have a little class.
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Personality Goes a Long Way: Women love being around charismatic
men because they appeal to their best feelings. Get yourself into the right
attitude for flirting and go for it. It takes a little confidence
but, then again, practice still makes perfect.
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Please Her Without Being Pushy: When you buy a woman a
drink, that is all you are buying. Don’t expect her to fall at your
feet. Sometimes it is nice just to send someone a drink, watch when
they receive it and smile, then look away--then looking back again to show
your interest. Don’t try to get a woman drunk. Wouldn't
it be preferable to have someone desire you genuinely instead of having
their senses obliterated by alcohol?
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Pick Her Out of a Crowd: Don’t make the rounds in a group
of women. No woman wants to feel that she is considered to be second
best. Refrain from approaching one after another in the same group.
You'll look like a loser and the women may think you are desperate.
Even if you are, don’t show it.
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Prefer Conversation First: Concentrate on the conversation,
not on getting a date. Most women want to know what kind of person
they are going out with. Make an effort to get to know her better
before diving in for a date. This way, you will run less risk of
being rejected when you do ask her.
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Pick Your Compliments Carefully: Offer her only
genuine compliments. There’s nothing worse than a guy who has a collection
of bad lines (Excuse me, I seem to have lost my phone number and was wondering
if I could borrow yours). Instead, notice something about her such
as her beautiful nails, her bracelet, or the quality of her voice.
Everyone has something about them worthy of a genuine compliment.
Physical Contact Should Be Limited: Keep your hands to
yourself and respect their space. Some women have no objection to
‘touchy feely’ encounters, whereas, others
are horrified by it. Touching can be a lovely way to flirt, but should
be confined to the arms or resting the hand just above the arms and not
touching, until you know each other better. Test the personal space by
moving closer, noticing the reactions, and then moving back a little to
remove the threat.
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Phone Her if She Gives You Her Number: If you ask for
a phone number, be sure you use it. Flirting and meeting people is
not about trophy hunting. It is about
making a new connection and having fun. If you don't intend to use
the number, don't ask. There’s nothing worse than giving out a phone
number and not having someone call. If you asked for it, use it .
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Practice, Practice, Practice: Be yourself. There’s
no point in assuming a role you think someone wants you to play because
you’ll get found out sooner or later. Be proud of who you are and
if you aren’t sure how you are at your best, you might want to do some
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