more desireable person. Hopefully, whatever I have accomplished will
make a difference to any lady of quality.
|| It's been an amazing experience, to say the
Having survived the devistation of divorce
after a long term marriage-gone-bad, my
three year journey of dating women of all
ages has left me feeling frustrated.
Mind you, I am neither a bad looking man nor do I carry too much excess
baggage from my past. Certainly, I am willing to admit that I've
had to work out some things about myself to become a
No, it's not just me.
Between my own personal experience, the volumes of books
I have read on the subject, and especially the discussions on the subject
that I have had with so many other singles
(both men and women alike), I have come to the conclusion that we men have
little sense of how women truly view whatever emphasis they place on their
Let me explain...
|Those 20ish Women...
Let's face it. There is no better time in any males
life when he has both the pick of the litter and they all come in amazingly
young and firm bodies. Any guy who has either the youthfulness or
the wherewithall to attract a woman in her twenties ought to build a shrine
to Mother Nature and worship her every waking moment.
Younger women are just as eager to meet their Mr. Right.
Making a marital commitment is definitely
an important goal for their lives. Most truly desire a loving husband,
and a nice suburban home surrounded by the proverbial white picket fence.
The only difference between them and their grandmothers is that they are
willing to pay for half of it out of their own earnings.
Compared to my generation, they are much more independent but they are
also more than willing to chip in on their half of the financial responsibilities.
All things considered, not a bad deal afterall.
Anyone who is beyond their twenties will agree that
this decade was indeed a wonderful time of life. Most of us had no
idea how good we hat it at that age. However, the tendency of these
younger woman to place an emphasis on financial security is beyond what
women of past generations seem to have experienced. This is evidenced
in the fact that men my age (fiftiesh) are very confident that those of
us whose net worth is higher than our peers are more apt to entice a younger
woman to look our way. Older women seem to castigate males who dip
so low into the female age pool but, truth be told, any twentiesh woman
who agrees to commit to such a relationship is entitled to order her own
life as she sees fit. If she is able to fulfill a relationship
with an older guy who both cherishes and provides her with a secure lifestyle,
then why not?
At any rate, twentiesh women are worthy of worship.
Few are aware of the power that they have over males. Even fewer
manifest it with a genuine desire to find, experience, and share love with
someone whom they care about deeply.
|Those 30ish Women...
Most of their sisters, girlfriends, and older friends
of their girlfriends are long married. Women who are single in their
thirties are either recently divorced or have not yet experienced a permanant
relationship. Those who are divorced are going to need time to get
over past the subsequent "crazy time."
Those who have never been married may not have much confidence in that
they have either allowed their career to come before any determined effort
to find someone special or their ability to attract a man (visual creatures
that they are) is not the same as their better looking peers.
At any rate, these still very lovely young creatures sell
themselves short in regard to their own power as females to attract a perspective
mate or they set their sights so high that they end up frustrating themselves
in failing to attract a real "hunk."
One more thing....
They usually come attached with kids. This
is not necessarily a bad thing unless, of course, the little creatures
are obviously spoiled brats and have no respect for male authority figures.
Believe me, she might be more beautiful than Pam Anderson but, after several
months of dealing with her rotten kids, you'll want out as soon as possible.
Other than that, go for it fella!
Thirtiesh females are still in the prime of their
lives. Each one of them is a human being whose capacity to care,
love, and share themselves with someone special is well worth the effort
to court their affections. They may
be frustrating due to their sometimes skeptical view of men, but they are
still young enough to give their heart totally to the one whom they choose
|Those 40ish Women...
Those who are divorced will need lots of time to
get over it. Most of them have teenagers and are working jobs that
barely covers the day to day expenses of living. Finding someone
who will provide them with security as well as accepting their children
are priorities regarding a loving, caring relationship. If you want
to score big time with these ladies, show a genuine interest in both them
and their children and be willing to relieve her financial stress with
plenty of nice times at your expense. She'll adore you.
You should adore her as well. After all, she's someone
who desires love in her life like everyone else. The human need to
be able to wake up each day without feeling the stress of having to be
responsible for so much (without anyone to help along the way) is justifiably
important to her.
Men of all ages are totally caught up with women
in their forties. Younger men find them to be mind-boggingly sexy
because they are experienced in the ways of love. Older men find
them to still be fresh and busy about the "stuff" of life.
Any man who finds himself in a loving
relationship with a fortiesh woman should thank God, even if he is
Yes, these women are more than capable of frustrating
any male, but they are both desireable and a gift to any man who simply
wants to share his life with someone who has been down the road well traveled.
|Those 50ish Women...
I wish that my experience with women in this age group
was so much different. The fact of the matter is that most of them
have endured a long-term relationship with a male that they consider was
a round trip to hell and back. Not only that, but they are doing
quite well financially and simply do not need the security that any male
At this age, their emphasis is on independence,
freedom, a little companionship, and a sometimes playmate
on their own terms. Other than that, any male seeking a long-term
relationship is considered to be a threat to their freedom.
However, there are those few who still seek to fill up
their aloneness with someone who will love them. They are few and
far in between but still well worth the effort to draw their attraction
as they are more than willing to commit themselves to a permanant relationship
with the right person.
Also, it must be said in defense of older
men who seek out younger women that their motivation to do so is not
always because they are simply dirty old men who want "fresh meat."
The fact of the matter is that 50ish women are so bent on protecting their
independency that older men who still desire a truly commited relationship
are forced to seek out younger women. Generally speaking, the whole
argument that such men are cradle robbers is a myth. They are simply
sick and tired of being played by older women who have no intention on
every entering into a permanant relationship, no matter how good they might
be or how genuine they are in expressing their love.
Considering the women of the various age groups,
these are the most frustrating. Those who are desirous of a permanant
relationship represent a minority in this group. Few of them would
disagree with this evaluation. After all, why should they when there
are plenty of men who will indeed go along with them no matter what the
Only 15% of them will enter into a new permanant relationship.
The rest will live their lives out alone--perhaps with two cats and a nicely
decorated apartment somewhere near a shopping center.
Those who are not married will have been divorced, widowed,
or single all of their lives. Those who chose not to give up their
independency will be long past their prime to attract a male. Most
of them will sense a kind of bitterness in this respect towards men in
general. Few will ever admit to themselves that their determination
to cling on to their independent lifestyle was, after all, a form of relational
suicide. Even fewer understand that males have never been anything
other than visual creatures. As their beauty fades, so does the interest
of those men who might have been attracted to them ten years before.
Furthermore, the same men are now financially able to provide security
to those 30ish, 40ish, and the few 50ish women who are still in the mood
for a long-term relationship.
Frustrating, isn't it?
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