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   It's been an amazing experience, to say the least.
   Having survived the devistation of divorce after a long term marriage-gone-bad, my three year journey of dating women of all ages has left me feeling frustrated.
Mind you, I am neither a bad looking man nor do I carry too much excess baggage from my past.  Certainly, I am willing to admit that I've had to work out some things about myself to become a 
more desireable person.  Hopefully, whatever I have accomplished will make a difference to any lady of quality.
   No, it's not just me.
   Between my own personal experience, the volumes of books I have read on the subject, and especially the discussions on the subject that I have had with so many other singles (both men and women alike), I have come to the conclusion that we men have little sense of how women truly view whatever emphasis they place on their love relationships.
   Let me explain...
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Those 20ish Women...
   Let's face it.  There is no better time in any males life when he has both the pick of the litter and they all come in amazingly young and firm bodies.  Any guy who has either the youthfulness or the wherewithall to attract a woman in her twenties ought to build a shrine to Mother Nature and worship her every waking moment.
   Younger women are just as eager to meet their Mr. Right. Making a marital commitment is definitely an important goal for their lives.  Most truly desire a loving husband, children, and a nice suburban home surrounded by the proverbial white picket fence.  The only difference between them and their grandmothers is that they are willing to pay for half of it out of their own earnings.  Compared to my generation, they are much more independent but they are also more than willing to chip in on their half of the financial responsibilities.  All things considered, not a bad deal afterall.
    Anyone who is beyond their twenties will agree that this decade was indeed a wonderful time of life.  Most of us had no idea how good we hat it at that age.  However, the tendency of these younger woman to place an emphasis on financial security is beyond what women of past generations seem to have experienced.  This is evidenced in the fact that men my age (fiftiesh) are very confident that those of us whose net worth is higher than our peers are more apt to entice a younger woman to look our way.  Older women seem to castigate males who dip so low into the female age pool but, truth be told, any twentiesh woman who agrees to commit to such a relationship is entitled to order her own life as she sees fit.   If she is able to fulfill a relationship with an older guy who both cherishes and provides her with a secure lifestyle, then why not?
    At any rate, twentiesh women are worthy of worship. Few are aware of the power that they have over males.  Even fewer manifest it with a genuine desire to find, experience, and share love with someone whom they care about deeply.
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Those 30ish Women...
   Most of their sisters, girlfriends, and older friends of their girlfriends are long married.  Women who are single in their thirties are either recently divorced or have not yet experienced a permanant relationship.  Those who are divorced are going to need time to get over past the subsequent "crazy time."  Those who have never been married may not have much confidence in that they have either allowed their career to come before any determined effort to find someone special or their ability to attract a man (visual creatures that they are) is not the same as their better looking peers.
   At any rate, these still very lovely young creatures sell themselves short in regard to their own power as females to attract a perspective mate or they set their sights so high that they end up frustrating themselves in failing to attract a real "hunk."
    One more thing....
    They usually come attached with kids.  This is not necessarily a bad thing unless, of course, the little creatures are obviously spoiled brats and have no respect for male authority figures.  Believe me, she might be more beautiful than Pam Anderson but, after several months of dealing with her rotten kids, you'll want out as soon as possible.
    Other than that, go for it fella!
    Thirtiesh females are still in the prime of their lives.  Each one of them is a human being whose capacity to care, love, and share themselves with someone special is well worth the effort to court their affections.  They may be frustrating due to their sometimes skeptical view of men, but they are still young enough to give their heart totally to the one whom they choose to love.
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Those 40ish Women...
    Those who are divorced will need lots of time to get over it.  Most of them have teenagers and are working jobs that barely covers the day to day expenses of living.  Finding someone who will provide them with security as well as accepting their children are priorities regarding a loving, caring relationship.  If you want to score big time with these ladies, show a genuine interest in both them and their children and be willing to relieve her financial stress with plenty of nice times at your expense.  She'll adore you.
   You should adore her as well.  After all, she's someone who desires love in her life like everyone else.  The human need to be able to wake up each day without feeling the stress of having to be responsible for so much (without anyone to help along the way) is justifiably important to her.
    Men of all ages are totally caught up with women in their forties.  Younger men find them to be mind-boggingly sexy because they are experienced in the ways of love.  Older men find them to still be fresh and busy about the "stuff" of life.
    Any man who finds himself in a loving relationship with a fortiesh woman should thank God, even if he is an atheist.
   Yes, these women are more than capable of frustrating any male, but they are both desireable and a gift to any man who simply wants to share his life with someone who has been down the road well traveled.
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Those 50ish Women...
   Whoops!
   I wish that my experience with women in this age group was so much different.  The fact of the matter is that most of them have endured a long-term relationship with a male that they consider was a round trip to hell and back.  Not only that, but they are doing quite well financially and simply do not need the security that any male might provide.
    At this age, their emphasis is on independence, freedom, a little companionship, and a sometimes playmate on their own terms.  Other than that, any male seeking a long-term relationship is considered to be a threat to their freedom.
   However, there are those few who still seek to fill up their aloneness with someone who will love them.  They are few and far in between but still well worth the effort to draw their attraction as they are more than willing to commit themselves to a permanant relationship with the right person.
    Also, it must be said in defense of older men who seek out younger women that their motivation to do so is not always because they are simply dirty old men who want "fresh meat."  The fact of the matter is that 50ish women are so bent on protecting their independency that older men who still desire a truly commited relationship are forced to seek out younger women.  Generally speaking, the whole argument that such men are cradle robbers is a myth.  They are simply sick and tired of being played by older women who have no intention on every entering into a permanant relationship, no matter how good they might be or how genuine they are in expressing their love.
    Considering the women of the various age groups, these are the most frustrating.  Those who are desirous of a permanant relationship represent a minority in this group.  Few of them would disagree with this evaluation.  After all, why should they when there are plenty of men who will indeed go along with them no matter what the terms.
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Those 60ish-plus Women....
   Only 15% of them will enter into a new permanant relationship.  The rest will live their lives out alone--perhaps with two cats and a nicely decorated apartment somewhere near a shopping center.
   Those who are not married will have been divorced, widowed, or single all of their lives.  Those who chose not to give up their independency will be long past their prime to attract a male.  Most of them will sense a kind of bitterness in this respect towards men in general.  Few will ever admit to themselves that their determination to cling on to their independent lifestyle was, after all, a form of relational suicide.  Even fewer understand that males have never been anything other than visual creatures.  As their beauty fades, so does the interest of those men who might have been attracted to them ten years before.  Furthermore, the same men are now financially able to provide security to those 30ish, 40ish, and the few 50ish women who are still in the mood for a long-term relationship.
    Frustrating, isn't it?
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