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- Root For The Home Team:
Sporting events are a great place to have a great time and provide a fun
and relaxed atmosphere for a first date. No matter what the season, there's
always something going on in the world of sports and if the cost of tickets
to a professional game isn't in your budget, high school, college and minor
league games are just as much fun.
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- Window Shopping:
You can stroll for hours in a shopping mall or a city's shopping district
while stopping here and there for a cup of coffee or an ice cream cone.
And if you get tired of just looking in the windows, there's always browsing
through the racks at a music store, trying on hats, or wasting a few quarters
in a video arcade.
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Be Tourists For A Day: Most of us live near
attractions that people travel miles to see and we've never taken the time
to visit ourselves. Historical monuments, zoos, amusement parks, and state
parks are just a few of the possibilities and great places to meet. These
attractions offer plenty of things to talk about in case of a lull in the
conversation and you can even pick up a souvenier of a memorable first
date.
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- Visit
A Museum: Art, Natural History, American Hisotry; pick a subject
and the chances are that there's a museum dedicated to it. If you and your
date have a common interest (or both of you want to see something new),
visit a museum together and enjoy the exhibits. Many museums also offer
special shows, presentations and lectures that can provide a unique first
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Laughter, Love,
or Lust--The Fun Date...
If it is fun that you want, rest
assured that anyone you date will be in complete agreement. Beyond
that, the challenge will be to come up with something that both of you
would consider to actually be enjoyable.
Take time to explore some mutual
interests and then plan something around one of them. Also, the previous
section on "First Dates" has some good ideas for fun times that are generic
enough to be appreciated by both parties on
a first time date. However, once you have
moved on to dating further, try to do things that you both enjoy.
After several dates you can begin asking the other person to try some things
out that would be new to them, although, very familiar to you.
If they are agreeable and not made to feel uncomfortable, the new experience
might be one that brings the two of you closer together. It could
also serve as an indication that something you truly enjoy is not going
to be anything that the two
of you will be sharing together should a relationship
develop.
Finally, a warning to the guys.
Listen, men, not every woman wants sex
on the first date; or the second date; or even the third date. Forcing
yourself on someone to have a little "fun" is not how we define a fun date.
If she is receptive to you, that is one thing; but if she does not respond,
then back off. If you feel that she is the one for you, be patient.
It may take longer, but you will be glad you waited and she will feel that
much better about you. The other option, should you decide to push
yourself on her, means that you will be out looking again for someone to
date.
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Virtually Connected--
The Internet Date...
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you've found someone online that you really
like and they like you, too. You'd really like to meet
him/her face-to-face. Now what? One of the best and worst things
about singles meeting via the Internet is the return of old-fashioned first
dates - with the added concern of personal safety when meeting a virtual
stranger. Picking a place to meet, an activity to share, things to
talk about--it can seem a bit overwhelming; especially when you really
want to make a good impression.
The amazing thing about online relationships
is that two people are able to get to know each other quite well (should
they take the time to do so via e-mail and numerous online chats) before
actually meeting. They can even send each other photo snapshots via
the net as well as any other information each is willing to share with
the other. The point is that, unlike traditional dating, it does
not take several times out together to glean all of this information.
It has already been done online. In fact, these types of first meetings
have the feel of finally being able to spend some real time with a friend.
However, one must always be aware that there are those who are not truly
genuine. Of course, that can also happen just as often, if not more-so,
using the traditional approach.
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Looking for Mr./Mrs.
Right--The Serious Date...
Some people date just for the fun of it. Married
people enjoy their date nights out together as well. However, there
are those who are seriously looking for that special someone. No
one should fault them. In fact, their determination to find the right
person to begin a permanent relationship
with is the primary purpose of why we date in the first place.
The thought here is that those who are serious daters
should be very careful not to put the other person in the uncomfortable
situation of being over-scrutinized. Go easy and take your time.
If love is meant to be, it will happen naturally.
Remember, too, that men fall in love easier than women.
They tend to look (the visual thing) before they leap (the sex thing).
Good, long-term relationships are built over an extended
period of time. It is one thing to find the right person; it
is another thing to maintain a right relationship.
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Great Expectations--The
Third Date...
Women know about it, talk about it, laugh about it, and
sometimes vent about it with their lady friends after some guy has tried
it on them once again. Some men try it on the first date, but every
gal knows that the third date is usually the charmer. Of course,
the ladies are not completely blameless on this count. Some women
are more than ready on the first date, whereas, others would really rather
wait for awhile until they are sure about the guy. Again, one should
not force themselves on another person. Men who have to persuade,
cajole, and convince a woman to go to bed with them need to realize that
if it doesn't happen naturally, then it shouldn't be happening at all...at
least not if you would like to go out on a fourth date.
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Time to Say Goodbye--The
Un-Date...
For some great tips on breaking up and how to deal with
it, go to...
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